Our sorrows provide us with the lessons we most need to learn.
The Arrow of Grief
Even if a person lives a century
from his community of relatives,
he abandons his life
So, having heard the arahant,
seeing the dead one whose time is done,
[think,] "I can't fetch him back."
Just as one would put out
a burning refuge
so does the enlightened one—
blow away any arisen grief,
like the wind, a bit of cotton fluff.
Seeking your own happiness,
you should pull Out your own arrow:
your own lamentation,
With arrow pulled out,
attaining peace of awareness,
all grief transcended,
griefless you are
—Translated from the Pali by Thanissaro Bhikkhu. From the Salla Sutta, Sutta Nipata III.8