Filed in Relationships

Accusing the Tiger

Sexual Ethics and Buddhist TeachersStephen Butterfield

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No matter how many scenes and rules we add, the plot never seems to go anywhere, and my anxiety about it never disappears.

At a certain moment, I meet a character who says, "Look, this is only a movie, we're just light and shadows. You can find out for yourself: sit down and do this meditation practice." When I hear this, I realize that I have often suspected the same thing. Although I may be held back by attachment to my role, I have become so disgusted by the futility of this play that I want the truth at any cost. Now I turn the whole script to that end. This is the only resolution I will accept. Then the drama comes apart, and all of its preconceptions, hopes, and fears vanish with it. My schemes, my dreams, my good and evil deeds are irrelevant. So are the rules which controlled my choices in that world.

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